I had a dance party this morning. And by that I mean, I danced in my living room by myself to a cover of “Hotline Bling” while my 10 month old walked back and forth across the room with her zebra walker. An acoustic cover at that. 

Does anything say “I need a dance party/wine night with my girls” more than that??

Anything?

In all honesty, I used to dance around my house a lot. I’d blast my favorite party music and dance around, often while meal prepping or cleaning. That was when I lived alone… I think I was more fun then… 

While your home is supposed to be the place you can feel entirely 100% free to be yourself- bad dance moves and all, blended family life can make that more difficult. 

When my husband and I got married, I moved into his home, that he and his children had lived in for years. I sold my home, the one that I spent months looking for, that I picked out, that I purchased with my own money, that I decorated and organized and had dance parties in. While my husband has been AMAZING in allowing me complete reign on redecorating, painting, organizing, and rearranging this home, it isn’t quite the same. And for anyone that is in a step-family, you’ll understand that the relational dynamics between stepparents and stepchildren, are nothing short of complicated. I’ve read that it takes 5-7 years for blended families to fully integrate. We’re in year two, and while progress has been made in various areas, it still feels like we’re more people that live together 50% of the time, than a true family, where you can be yourself and let loose. And maybe that will always be the case. Even with good relationships, we don’t share that biological family bond that’s impossible to replicate. So when you marry into a family that doesn’t quite share your taste in dance music or your dancing while cooking & cleaning ways, where do you go?

Dancing in the living room with the baby while no one else is home. That’s where. Anxiously awaiting the day that quarantine life is over so that you can plan a girls night with your favorite people, blast the 90s music, and dance the night away.